‘Sometimes the most important thing in the Whole day is the rest we take between two Deep breaths’
Everyone is equally worthy of giving themselves a moment and putting themselves first. Taking the time to practise self- care is important especially during times of stress. When the washing is mounting, the dog needs walking and the sink is full of dirty plates you can feel overwhelmed with a long to-do list. Some days you feel you have too much to do and not enough time to do it and self- care, which is supposed to nourish the soul, is often last on the list. This can result in burnout, exhaustion and stress and will effect your health and wellbeing.
Three time savers can be crucial to turning your life around and put into practice self-care which is important more than ever right now.
These allow you to stop thinking about big things you think you need to do and find time for the life changing effect of repeated small daily actions through repetition.
What matters most for your health and wellbeing is not the big events that happen maybe once every year but the small things that happen every day. Consistency beats perfection. These small changes can be as simple as sitting in the sun for 10 minutes with your feet on the grass and reconnecting with the earth or planting a few seeds in pot. Going for a daily walk will lift your spirits and can be life changing.
The power of micro goals can be found in these benefits.
Motivation. When a goal is so small that it is manageable it removes the resistance in getting started. Motivation kicks in after you have started something , not before, once you start and feel the benefits you will keep going and exceed your micro goal.
Habits. After the initial effort, repetition moves the activity into the subconscious, automatic programming making it a habit that is part of your daily rhythm of life.
Compound effect. The benefit of consistency exceeds the effort expended. If you build muscle by consistently training then you have the benefit of that extra muscle even when you are not at the gym. Or, if you expand your prefrontal cortex through consistent meditation, you have that extra brain power all day even when you are not meditating. You will get bigger results with smaller daily goals.
Time versus energy
For many people life is dominated by schedules and deadlines. But it’s not how much time is spent on a task that affects performance at work or at home. It’s also about how much energy can be brought into work, fun and relationships.
Sometimes it takes a lot longer to complete a project and the difference is the ability to maintain energy levels and remain focused.
To do this you need to recharge your batteries. This is important in rest and play. Having a power nap in the afternoon for 10 minutes can provide extra energy and boost your mood in the afternoon. Taking a break from your desk at lunchtime and going for a 10 minute walk can make you more productive and ride that afternoon slump. Start to see self- care as an investment that generates energy and gains you more time for yourself.
Re-evaluate your priorities
If you see self-care as critical to your wellbeing, health, energy, work performance, relationships and ability to respond positively to life’s challenges, how might it affect your daily priorities?
REMEMBER …IT’S IMPOSSIBLE TO DO EVERYTHING AND PLEASE EVERYONE… IMPORTANTLY YOU ARE NOT EXPECTED TO.
Creating time for yourself can mean delegating more, setting boundaries, saying ‘no’, asking for help and being more disciplined with distractions such as TV or social media.
GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION TO REST, IT ISNT SELFISH IT IS RESPONSIBLE AND IT BENEFITS YOU AND THOSE YOU CARE FOR
Sometimes a struggle to create space for self- care can indicate low self worth, that you believe what matters is what you achieve rather than you in your own right. This makes it difficult to give yourself permission to put your needs first. Your needs matter. You are important. And you are worthy of giving yourself the micro-moments that will help to re-energise your health and wellbeing.
FIVE MINUTE SELF CARE MICRO GOALS
- boost your mood with feel good music during breakfast
- Listen to a motivational podcast or audiobook while driving.
- Meditate for five minutes
- Get outside for few deep breaths of fresh air and vitamin D
- Smile for no reason
- Express gratitude for one person or thing in your life
- Drink an extra glass of water then you wake up
- Add extra vegetables to your meal
- Say no
- Text a friend
- Practise being present in the moment such as smelling a flower, stroking a pet or listening to a song.
- Rest in silence for just five minutes
- Say a positive mantra while washing the dishes.
Take care of you because you are important.